Finding Your Village: How To Find Friends and Build Your Mom Community
Finding Your Community as a New Mom
Becoming a new parent is a beautiful but challenging experience. The sleepless nights, constant feedings, and never-ending diaper changes can leave you feeling exhausted-and, at times, incredibly lonely. You love your baby more than anything, but let’s be real: adult conversation and a support system are just as essential as a stocked diaper bag.
When I became a mom, I struggled to find my community. I knew I needed to get out and meet other moms, but I didn’t know where to start. That’s when I discovered Fit4mom, and let me tell you - This group changed everything for me. I was able to workout (which I loved), I was able to workout at my own pace. And if I didn’t feel like working out that day, I get to chose to walk while pushing the stroller and have conversations with other moms.
How Fit4mom Became My Village
I’ve been a part of Fit4mom for over eight years. What started as a way to get some fresh air and light movement after having a baby turned into something much more meaningful. My kids found lifelong friends, my husband and I found our own circle of friends, and I found a community of moms who truly understood what I was going through.
Now, I won’t sugarcoat it - joining a new group can be intimidating. I’ve seen plenty of women come and go, some finding their people immediately and others struggling to connect. I was one of the ones who struggled at first. But I stuck with it, and little by little, I built strong friendships.
If Fit4mom isn’t your thing, that’s totally okay! The important thing is to keep searching. There are many ways to find your community-it might be through a church group, a library story time, a local parenting class, or even a mom-and baby yoga session.
And the best part? you can find these groups all over Menifee, Murrieta, Temecula, Fallbrook, San Diego, Oceanside, Moreno Valley, Corona, Irvine, Santa Ana, Orange, Mission Viejo, Laguna Beach, Newport Beach etc. No matter where you are, there’s a place for you to connect with other moms who understand exactly what you’re going through.
The Secret to Making New Friends as a Mom
Finding your people takes time and consistency. In a recent episode of Mel Robinn’s podcast, she shared research on how long it actually takes to form friendships:
50 hours to become casual friends
90 hours to consider someone a friend
200 hours to form a close friendship
So if you’ve gone to a mom group once or twice and didn’t immediately click with anyone, dont give up! Friendships aren’t instant- They’re built over time. Keep showing up, keep making the effort, and you’ll find your people.
The Best Time to Build Your Community Is Now
Here’s the thing-being a new mom is a gateway to forming new friendships. Everyone is in the same stage of life, looking for connection, support, and a sense of belonging. But as kids get older and schedules fill up, it becomes harder to meet new people. Many moms settle into their existing circles, and opportunities to form new friendships becomes harder.
But it’s not just motherhood that creates these opportunities. Any new phase of life-whether it’s moving to a new city, starting a new job, or even entering a different season of parenthood-gives you a fresh start to build new connections. Being in a season of change naturally opens the door for new relationships, and the people around you are likely looking for the same thing.
So take advantage of this stage! Wrap up that little bundle of joy, step out of your comfort zone, and explore. You will find your community-I believe in you!
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